邀約與婉拒（人情文化） Making invitations, accepting or politely declining, and reading the “saving-face” curves of Taiwanese social talk.
一、暖身 Warm-up
Wake up the topic. Share your own experience before diving in.
1. 別人邀請你、但你不想去的時候，你會直接拒絕嗎？
biérén yāoqǐng nǐ, dàn nǐ bù xiǎng qù de shíhòu, nǐ huì zhíjiē jùjué ma?
When someone invites you but you don’t want to go, do you decline directly?
2. 在你的文化裡，拒絕別人時需要找理由嗎？
zài nǐ de wénhuà lǐ, jùjué biérén shí xūyào zhǎo lǐyóu ma?
In your culture, do you need to give a reason when you turn someone down?
二、語彙 Vocabulary · Tap a card to flip
10 words from today’s dialogues. Tap a card to see meaning & example. Tap the speaker to hear it.
實用語塊 · Useful chunks
三、對話練習 Dialogues · Read, listen, role-play
Three scenes. Click ▶︎ next to each line to hear it. Toggle EN·Pinyin at the top to test yourself.
情境一：發出邀約 Making an invitation
這週六我們要去看展，你要不要一起？
zhè zhōuliù wǒmen yào qù kàn zhǎn, nǐ yào bú yào yìqǐ?
We’re going to see an exhibition this Saturday—want to come along?
聽起來不錯！是什麼展？
tīng qǐlái búcuò! shì shénme zhǎn?
Sounds good! What kind of exhibition?
攝影展，聽說很值得看。難得大家都有空。
shèyǐng zhǎn, tīngshuō hěn zhídé kàn. nándé dàjiā dōu yǒu kòng.
A photography exhibition—supposedly worth seeing. It’s rare everyone’s free.
好啊，算我一個！
hǎo a, suàn wǒ yí ge!
Great, count me in!
情境二：婉拒邀約 Declining politely
下班後要不要一起去吃個飯？
xiàbān hòu yào bú yào yìqǐ qù chī ge fàn?
Want to grab dinner together after work?
真不好意思，我今天剛好有事，下次一定。
zhēn bù hǎoyìsi, wǒ jīntiān gānghǎo yǒu shì, xiàcì yídìng.
I’m so sorry, I happen to have something today—next time for sure.
沒關係，那就改天。
méi guānxi, nà jiù gǎitiān.
No worries, another day then.
真的很謝謝你約我，下次換我請。
zhēn de hěn xièxie nǐ yuē wǒ, xiàcì huàn wǒ qǐng.
Thanks so much for inviting me—next time it’s on me.
情境三：半推半就的客氣 The polite back-and-forth
這個你拿去吃，我買太多了。
zhège nǐ ná qù chī, wǒ mǎi tài duō le.
Take this—I bought too much.
這怎麼好意思，你自己留著吧。
zhè zěnme hǎoyìsi, nǐ zìjǐ liúzhe ba.
Oh, I couldn’t—keep it for yourself.
別客氣啦，一點點而已。
bié kèqi la, yìdiǎndiǎn éryǐ.
Don’t be shy, it’s just a little.
那……那我就不客氣了，謝謝你。
nà…… nà wǒ jiù bú kèqi le, xièxie nǐ.
Well… I won’t say no then, thank you.
四、語法點 Grammar Focus
Three patterns pulled from today’s dialogues. Try the “Your turn” box to sketch your own sentence.
1. 難得… nándé
Marks a rare, valued chance — “it’s rare that / since we rarely…”
- 難得你來一趟，多坐一會兒吧。
- 難得放假，我想好好休息。
2. 剛好… gānghǎo
“As it happens / just in time.”
- 我剛好也要去那邊，順便載你。
- 你來得剛好，飯剛煮好。
3. 還是…吧 háishì … ba
A softened suggestion or gentle decline; 吧 softens the tone.
- 今天太晚了，還是改天吧。
- 你不舒服的話，還是先回去休息吧。
五、小測驗 Quick Check · 6 questions
Choose the most natural, culturally appropriate answer. Feedback appears after each pick.
六、自由談話 Free Talk
Speak in connected sentences. State your view, then give a reason.
1. 你最近一次拒絕別人是什麼時候？你是怎麼說的？
nǐ zuìjìn yí cì jùjué biérén shì shénme shíhòu? nǐ shì zěnme shuō de?
When was the last time you turned someone down? How did you say it?
2. 你覺得「客氣」是體貼還是麻煩？為什麼？
nǐ juéde “kèqi” shì tǐtiē háishì máfán? wèishénme?
Is 客氣 (being polite/formal) considerate or a hassle? Why?
3. 如果朋友一直邀你做你不想做的事，你會怎麼處理？
rúguǒ péngyǒu yìzhí yāo nǐ zuò nǐ bù xiǎng zuò de shì, nǐ huì zěnme chǔlǐ?
If a friend keeps inviting you to do something you don’t want to do, how would you handle it?